Asperger's Parenting · coping · Tantrums

Yesterday was something

What a day yesterday was.  Couldn’t even write by the end of the day.  Pretty much in a fog and made it to bed by 9:30.  When days get like that I can’t even process what happened.  B flies off the handle, there is no way to slow him down.  He becomes very unreasonable, physically aggressive, and cannot be calmed by any normal means.  I called one of his doctors’ offices and talked to someone about what to do.  He screamed and yelled through that but by the end of the call he had calmed down quite a bit.

The doctor later asked what was his trigger.  Triggers are so important.  In our case I always can say, but really there is no significance.  His trigger yesterday was a no, he could not go to his friend’s house right away after school (within 2 minutes).  Instead he would have to wait for a while while his friend settled in at home and visited with is mom, just like we do at our house.  Well that was it.  There was no more reasoning.

Solutions for that situation?  I went to walk home with M from school.  Then we walked some friends home and then went to check on the mood at home.  It hadn’t improved so M went off to a friend’s house.  As the mood worsened I called the dr. and then another friend for my support.  I asked that friend if we could come over.  She said of course.

That change in environment turned everything around.  Oh to be able to find a simpler way.